From the very early stages of our relationship we read so many relationship books and asked several marriage counselors for advise. We both knew that communication is the key for a successful relationship. We were very real with each other about our feelings and our and needs. We thought we were good at it! Little did we know that was not the case at all. One of our major learning experiences in our relationship happened while we were engaged.
In July I went out of town for few days for a friend's wedding. I missed AJ so much while I was away. After the wedding the next day I few into OKC. I reached OKC around noon. Before we left AJ had told me that he will be picking me up at the airport. After we started dating, this was the very first time I was away for a few days. So I was looking forward to seeing AJ. When the planed landed in OKC, my heart was leaping with joy to see him. I got out of plane as fast as I could and came out where the visitors waited. I saw several people waiting in anticipation to see their loved ones. I saw several couples hugging and kissing, several children running and jumping. But there was no AJ! I could not believe it! I looked again and again at all those waiting. I didn't see my favorite guy! How could this be possible?? He has been treating me with respect and love all this time, but how could he do this to me? All of these thoughts raced through my head. So finally, I called his cell phone. There is no answer. I called my dad. He said AJ should be at the airport. So I called AJ again and he answered. I was so mad when I heard his voice. He sounded so thrilled to hear my voice. But I was so furious and asked him where he was. He told me was in his car at the passenger pick up and wanted me to go there to meet him. I was even more mad. Once again thoughts started to race through my mind. "He is my fiance! Not my taxi driver. He should be meeting me at the gate. Not at the passenger pick up." Finally I went to the passenger pick up to meet him. As soon as he saw me he came out of the car to get my bags and I didn't let him touch my bags. He was surprised and had no clue why I won't let him touch my bags. So then he came to hug me and kiss me. Same story I didn't want to hug him or kiss him. That made him more confused and he looked like he was hurt. As soon as we both got in the car and he drove off. He pulled over by a gas station and asked me why I was mad. I said " because you are not my taxi driver!!!" He had no clue what I meant by that. so long story short I told him I was mad because he wasn't there at the terminal. He told me he didn't know that I wanted him to be there at the terminal. He told me that every time he traveled, he was picked up by the passenger pick up and not at terminal. That is when we realized that we were raised up in two entirely different families and we have and will always approach situations differently. It also dawned on us that we never told each other where we will be meeting each other. We assumed that the other person knew about it. That is when promised each other to always let each other know about our expectations. We make and effort to communicate our expectations on a daily basis. Thanks to that we have a much deeper and loving relationship now than we ever had 2yrs ago.
This valentine's day I'm so thankful to have AJ in my life. There is never a dull moment when we are together.We both waited a long time to meet each other, but it was worth the wait. I pray that we have a long time together have lots of fun on this yathra (journey)!
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